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Making lemonade out of lemons….

I always say, if it’s not fun, or if I can’t make it fun, I don’t want to play. That goes for just about everything. I really enjoy vacillating between serious and silly seamlessly. Yes, it’s a gift. And yes, it can get on people’s nerves if they are not accustomed to the way I operate. There was a beautiful picture taken at my mom’s funeral of my entire family. Someone commented, “Wow, everyone is smiling.” I replied back,  “We had a great mom, there is still much to smile about.”

Can you imagine the picture if everyone looked somber, sad …


The holidays are here…


Now that’s a legacy, Carol Spooner.
(Minus Miss Hayley who hates fish…)
The holidays are here, and I receive as many condolence cards as Christmas. I think the cards are a very sweet gesture, it lets me know that people are thinking about my family and the pain we feel.  I have way more good days then bad, and that alone will make you feel bad. I wonder why I am OK, and some people who lose a parent lose their self.  Heck, Dog the Bounty Hunter started using crack cocaine when his mother died…makes me think he loved his …

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Life without a Mom.

It’s only been two weeks since my mom passed away, and I can’t decide how it feels. To say it
sucks is an understatement,  and when life goes on, I to pause to question if that’s O.K.
Who do I call when I need to cook something? Yes….every time I cooked a meal I had to call her about something. Who do I call when planning the holidays, or even a family BBQ? She has always been the nucleus of our family. She was so strong, and so brave. Never letting us see her weakness. Always wanting lipgloss. I have …

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Antelope Valley Family YMCA

I tell all of my mom friends who want to take on more either in work force or with philanthropy “If you always make your decisions based on what is best for your family, you will be blessed.” I have been a living example of that since my daughter Hayley was born. I have been offered fabulous jobs, projects or assignments that at the time didn’t fit into my families lifestyle. I remember my ego being hurt that I could not do what I was born to do, but I put my family first. My family is what I was …